I Absolutely Love And Adore My Wife

On June 6, Dot made me the happiest man in the world. We solemnized our marriage in a small, intimate ceremony with family and close friends. There will be another ceremony here in the states at a future time.

Since our wedding day, Dot and I have continued to learn more and more about each other. I didn't really think that there was anything else to learn, but, we have found even more things in common than we originally realized. This woman is so amazing and so fantastic. I know for a fact that my decision to marry her was totally correct for me. I cannot see myself being happy with anyone else on a 24/7 basis. Dot completes me. We can tell each other anything without upsetting the other person. We don't have to hold back truths or feelings. We both know that anything that is said is out of a love for each other and respect for our marriage that knows no barriers.

I deeply look forward to the day that Dot can move here to the states and we can actually begin sharing our full lives together. Until then, we have definite plans to travel back and forth as often as vacation times will allow. We also find a way to talk at least twice a day despite a twelve hour difference between our time zones. I'm usually just getting home from work while she's starting her work day and vice versa so it is a challenge. It is one we meet head on though. It is rough. I miss not coming home to her on a daily basis. I miss getting in the car together to drive somewhere whether on business or pleasure. I miss her smile and infectuous optimism. With all this, everytime we see each other is like there's been no break. We pick up exactly where we left off. Long distance relationships and marriages can definitely work. Dot and I are proving that everyday. It does take a little more communication and faith in each other. Thankfully, those are two areas where Dot and I are very strong.

It's Finally Happening!!

Dot and I are in the process of planning our wedding!! I have been waiting patiently for three years for this moment. Now, my flight is actually booked to travel to Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia to marry this wonderful lady. I will fly out on May 30 and we will be married on June 6. Today, I spent part of my day off helping with the details and editing one of our favorite pictures so that we could use it as part of the wedding. We're also getting some ideas for our American ceremony even though that's at least another year away. Dot and I both like so many different things that it was hard to pick and choose among them.

And, I'm not getting any of the traditional pre-marital jitters. Dot and I have been together for three years and spent the better part of that time living together and totally sharing our lives with each other. We've seen each other at our best and worst. I don't see any of that changing after June 6. We'll just be legally married and eligible for the benefits granted by that connection. Our love, passion, romance, etc will all still be there. A simple piece of paper isn't going to change that.

To the beautiful woman about to become my wife I can only say thank you and I love you. Thank you for having me in your life. Thank you for blessing me with your presence. Thank you for being there for me when no one else is around. Most importantly, thank you for loving me as much as I love you.

2008 A Year Of Change

Well, it's a cold, icy day here in Indiana and I have the day off of work. It feels like the perfect time to sit down and write a blog entry.

This was the year that I've been trying to postpone in my mind since late 2005. I knew that the time would come when Dot would have to go back home to Malaysia and the process of waiting for her to return to the states would start. She went home in January and came back for a very brief visit in October. Other than that, we've sustained ourselves through phone calls, text messages, IM'ing and the occassional webcam call. Words alone cannot express the love I have for this lady nor how much I miss her. The absence is only making our relationship stronger though. I know that once we're finally able to be together that it will be forever.

Another change occurred in my professional life. After gaining a full-time job in Bloomington, I decided it was time to transfer with my seasonal job as well. I'd spent five years with H and R Block in Terre Haute and knew that I wanted to continue working with them. After visiting with the district manager here in Bloomington, that became a really easy transition. I have just started my second year in my new office and I'm looking forward to continuing forward with the company.

Last year also brought many new friends into my life as I've begun to circulate with karaoke in the local area as well as picking up new friends at work. Some have become very close friends and basically family. I am grateful for all of them because I don't think I'd endure the absence of Dot without them. Naturally, this is one of the things that I love about Bloomington. Having lived here for college before, I know how great the area is for meeting and maintaining friendships. It's something unique to Bloomington. Even other college towns don't match the friendliness that's abundant here.

There are more changes to come in 2009. Many of them will be for the better. I'll tell you more about those later though. For now, I'm going to relax and hope that the weather is better tomorrow when I have to go back into work all day.