The Greatest Lesson I Ever Learned From Mom

The holidays are a time to be with family. Since I lost my Mom in March of 2005, I decided that the best way to spend time with her was to remember her lessons. The one I'm writing about is one that I've tried to live up to everyday. I thought I'd share it with all my readers.

When I was growing up, I learned many valuable lessons from my Mom. I feel like the most important one was the fact that respect from other people must be earned by someone. In other words, respect is never automatically due someone just because of age, familial relationship, position in business/society, etc. This doesn't mean that you don't show politeness. Being polite to other people is one of the most important ways someone earns respect. What are some other ways?

When you're talking to someone, don't insult that person's friends or family. I don't care who you are. People have a right not to hear bad stuff about the people they love.

If you don't agree with someone's viewpoint, you can be honest. But, you can also show people that you value their opinion by listening attentively and not taking an argumentative tone. This one seems to be most violated when people start talking about politics.

You can also earn respect from others on the road. Obey the posted speed limit signs and remember that those are the safe speeds for perfect driving conditions. If it's dark and/or wet, you should be driving slower. For some reason, cars seem to be more impatient as it gets colder. Unfortunately, this is when it's also icy.

Ok. I'm done with examples. Like I said, I work hard on a daily basis to earn the respect of other people. For my readers, I'd just tell you to remember that you don't have to respect anyone who doesn't treat you the way you should be treated. It doesn't matter who they are. Your respect is a valuable asset and should be used wisely. Your politeness is free and can be used much more liberally.